#ASOSAfrica

I love online shopping. No really, I love it. Although it’s hard to beat the feeling of shopping irl, like when you have to go through doors sideways just so you and all your shopping bags would fit, online shopping has made my life so much easier. Decision making had never been my strong suit, but now I can try on everything with my own shoes, tops and jackets and really make the right decision. And no, it’s not that bad decisions in fashion are unrepairable, but they sure can cost a lot of money. 

My first online experience was right after a friend told 16 year old me to look at “as seen on screen” dot com. Here we are, more than 10 years later, still a loyal customer. So when I saw Asos going into the same direction as Arum’s wardrobe, I just had to share. Because prints are nice and the bright variety of African prints is a great plus to your wardrobe. The only thing we often miss is the weather to wear it. The ASOS Africa collection mixes bold prints with wearable styles. And it’s sustainable, so no guilty feelings. From now on it’s “But baby I’m not just buying clothes, I’m saving humanity.”

Girl Crush: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Queen B, you’re absolutely flawless, we totally get that. But I’m not writing this post to state the obvious. I’m here to give some love to my new girl crush Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie- who wrote the crazy powerful speech you hear in the middle of the song. 

The speech comes from the essay ‘We Should All Be Feminists’ and though I haven’t read it yet (priority on my to-read list), I have read two other books of her’s ‘Half of a Yellow Sun’ and ‘Americanah’. 

I literally  binged these books. The first book being about Nigeria before, during and after the Nigerian  Civil War and the second about young Nigerians who had moved abroad. Ok, yes-sounds a bit heavy if you’re looking for novels to bring on your next vacation, but if you want true, fearless written books that will leave you more aware of the world, then look no further…

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller

We say to girls: “You can have ambition, but not too much

You should aim to be successful, but not too successful

Otherwise, you will threaten the man”

Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage

I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is most important

Now, marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support

But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?

We raise girls to see each other as competitors

Not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing

But for the attention of men

We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are

Feminist: a person who believes in the social

Political, and economic equality of the sexes